Thanksgiving, the Infinity Mirror

During This Get-Together of Four Generations Speaking Three Languages, We All Take Turns Playing Caretaker and Taken-Care-Of


As Thanksgiving approaches, I think back to the first Thanksgiving I spent with my infant daughter three years ago, which was also the last one I spent with my grandmother. The multigenerational gathering at my childhood home in Alhambra, mixing Chinese, Vietnamese, and American traditions, is not only etched in my memory; it’s immortalized in a digital photograph.

In the photo, my mom and I are at the end and beginning of middle age. She’s holding my nearly 4-month-old daughter in her arms, while my arms rested by my 84-year-old grandma, …

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